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Saturday, August 5, 2000

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Alone

My father is moving to Dallas on September 15th. He's going to live in a retirement complex for Wycliffe members. It's a good deal. He'll have his own apartment but there will also be common areas and a cafeteria where he can meet and talk with other people. He feels a little lonely now since people work all day then go home at night so he doesn't have people around to talk with. There's the phone and email but my father is a face to face person and can talk with anyone. I've always admired that in him.

There is a doctor close and a pool and jacuzzi so he can keep his hip in shape. There will be other people he knows so he's not going to be a stranger. He was in one of the first groups that went down to Mexico and so many of the old timers are getting old. I think it's great that he's making this choice on his own and that he has a choice. I was afraid of him losing interest in life now that mom is dead.

I realized today that I'll be alone, without family for the first time since I got married. I've lived alone for a few years now but at least there was family around. My father and I only got together once in a while but he was always there. I've wanted to live near Mike or Lisa but that's a little off as I need to pay off bills and get a job wherever I move to. Since I'm in my 50s and without a degree I'm a little worried about that. I also like the job I have, I just don't have close friends here. The ones I hung out with have moved on to other things and other places.

How am I dealing with this? I went out and got a bunch of mysteries from the library and read two of them yesterday. Yes, indeed, when in doubt, read a book.

The first book was "A Way with Widows" by Harold Adams. Adams features Carl Wilcox, a sign painter, during the depression years in the midwest. Carl is an interesting and likable character without being a wuss. In this book his sister asks him to prove that her neighbor didn't kill her husband (the neighbor's husband). It's a good look at small town America during the depression and also insight into how much they were like us. The solution was good and the characters well drawn. This is the second book in this series that I read and I will certainly read more.

The second book was "Mansion and it's Murder" by Robert Barnard (writing as Bernard Bastable). This was a very well done look back from 1946 to the last part of the 19th century and the solution to a murder that has affected the heroine since she was a child in the victorian age. I enjoyed the laying out and solution of the puzzle very much and Sarah Jane Fearing, the child and the narrator, was delightful both in how she handled her life and the murder. Robert Barnard always has just a little twist to everything he writes and I always enjoy it.


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